What do men want?
3 Feb
As I wait impatiently for my dinner delivery, I was asked by your beloved TWG founder, Stephanie Chai, “What do men want in a woman?” While pondering on the said question, I couldn’t help but gawk with astonishment at the display I was being presented with… involving Steph, her BFF Jasmine, Facebook and their ridiculously long-named cat. Lets just say that me being a bachelor isn’t such a huge surprise after all.
But seriously, actually that was serious. Lets just go forth and attempt to answer the question shall we… I think the best way to address this is the way comedian Chris Rock so eloquently put it… All men want is Food, Sex and Silence. He did however go on to rephrase it in terms of how women can accommodate these needs in unmentionable expletives which eventually warranted an explosive applause from the male audience, but really, it is that simple. Men are simple. We’re pretty much straight forward and if ever we appear complicated, its really our feeble attempts to cover up the simplicity of our responses that women find so hard to accept. All we really want are no complications.
Anyway, what do I know what men want really… I don’t think I even know what I want to be quite honest. However, I think what Ms Chai was trying to imply when she asked me that question was “What must women do to keep a man?”
Well, I cant speak for all guys, but I can tell you one thing I’ve learnt recently from a guy named Darren Hardy that has eluded me all these years and I would like to share it with our readers today. Firstly, make a descriptive list of all the qualities, values and attributes you would like in a lifelong partner. I mean really create this person on paper, right down to their looks, behaviour, education, family and personality. This way you have a clear cut goal on which you wish to attain. Now instead of asking yourself what you need to do to get this, you need to tell yourself what you need to become. Ask yourself what would a person like the one you’ve just described in detail would want in a partner. Then all you need to do is become that person. When you become that person I really believe you wouldn’t even have to look and that person will eventually come to you. A little too far fetched you might think…? Well, it worked for Darren.
“To achieve something you have never achieved before you must become someone you have never been.” —Les Brown
I believe that finding that right partner is not something you pursue. What you pursue eludes you. That ideal person you dream of is what you’ll attract by the person you become. If you want ideal, you must become ideal.
I’ll be the first to admit that the chase was my waste of time all these years. Its only now, that bachelorhood has really taken its toll, that I have focused my resources and energy to becoming my ideal.
Shamser Sidhu is a well-known model, TV host and producer who not only made waves in Asia but ventured to the city of angels where he was a correspondent for NBC’s Your LA TV. Locally, he is recognised from his Celcom Xpax ads and as the presenter for Fear Factor Malaysia. Besides his love for television, Shamser is a passionate photographer and a certified SCUBA instructor with two international organisations. When he has a moment or two, this bachelor likes to ponder and wonder why the fairer sex are the wonderful, complicated creatures they are!
Men want IT ALL!
OMG! OMG! Haven’t seen him on telly for a while now… He’s pretty fine eh…
i totally agree…
but well not only men is simple… everyone is simple only complicated mind make it complicated to handle
xoxo
Is TWG turning into another celebrity blog? As much as I love Shamser’s article, most TWG readers are brides-to-be trying to find out the best way to plan a wedding, not how to PURSUE the right partner!!
Haha, it’s not a celeb blog but ppl are interested to hear what celebs think. Hey marriage is a lifelong affair – just because you have a ring on your finger – doesn’t mean it’s going to be peaches forever. Relationships constantly need work and I think we are all seeking how to better ourselves and make that love last.
I know brides who still have r’ship probs even up to the wedding! After all, it is a stressful time that really puts your r’ship to the test…
Plus it’s nice to have a little variety, great job guys!
such a good advise from shamser sidhu…good to hear that guidance i a guys point of view