Diffuse The Drama (Mama)
18 Feb

If there’s anything I know about weddings, it’s this…while it may be a beautiful union of the loveliest couples, often it can bring out the worst in families, relatives and friends. Announce a wedding and you can be sure that some green-eyed monsters will be crawling out of the woodwork. Dramatic situations can also arise simply by not having good organizational skills, sleeping too little or allowing your mother to railroad all your ideas.
Whatever the case or whomever the culprit, weddings are an emotional time – whether it’s the event itself or the run up to it. So here’s our list of how to anticipate wedding season silliness while keeping your cool.

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Delegate
We know that you want to organize a simply fabulous wedding but one person cannot do it alone, least of all the bride! Don’t bite off more than you can chew, otherwise you will end up sucked into the vortex of wedding planning stress and become that dreaded bridezilla. Managing vendors, family anxieties and demands, as well as people who just don’t understand the concept of RSVP-ing on top of your emotions will get you overwhelmed and feeling the pressure.
If you’re a DIY bride, try to organize your tasks in advance and pinpoint the people in your life who can help like your graphic designer friend who can help get your wedding cards right. Remember that your husband-to-be also has a huge say in the wedding too. Take the time to do something ‘un-wedding’ together once a week and work your gym routine or pamper sessions as part of your wedding planning process. And if it all gets too much, appoint a wedding planner who can take over from up to a week before or even the day of the wedding to ensure everything runs seamlessly.

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Choose your Bridal Party Wisely
You can do a lot of damage to your special day by not paying attention to whom you select as your inner circle on D-Day. Bridesmaids should consist of your sister/s and BFF’s. Think clearly about their character, how they have helped you out in the past and how they react to drama.
If you know that one of your friends usually cracks under pressure, likes being the center of attention or has the tendency to be a drama diva, let her arrange your hen’s party or keep her in one of the ancillary roles like an usherette at the church service or the person minding the guest book. If you have an unmarried sister who will be your maid-of-honour, mind her sensitivities by refraining from self-importance and telling her you will be happy to share her happiness in the future.
Keep your Mother/Mother-In-law in the Loop
Even if you and your husband-to-be are paying for the event, it helps to keep both mothers involved. Your mother is going to feel like she’s losing her baby girl and may have strange ways of showing it, like insisting you stay at the family home the night before the wedding or some other irrational demand. (more…)
























